Well, seems my birthday yesterday has re-ignited A-Hole's obsessive stalker behavoir. I have come to the conclusion that getting the restraining order has done ABSOLUTLY NO GOOD!!!!! Police just dont do a DAMN THING! I continue to be treated like a stupid woman, I have brought them the emails, on PAPER, that they requested, that still get sent to me DAILY, even tho' the order states clearly, no contact in any form is to be made. I sent one email several weeks ago to A-Hole at the advisement of the "Women's Place"(so it be in writing) to request him to stop trying to contact me. O the cops just have a hey day w/ that one! If I had know it would be brought up EVERY TIME I have to call the PD, I would have never done it...IN FACT, if I had know getting a restraining order would do absolulty NO GOOD, I would have never gotten that either.
So, I have produced emails from A-Hole with him asking me to meet him at Pea Soup for dinner, to call him, to see him again, if I wont see him again, he threatens to call my boss etc... blah blah blah, and all this after the order was served...to no avail. He roams free to continue his harrasment on me.
So in conclusion, the laws remain intact and quite A JOKE as a matter of fact , the victim becomes the "bad guy" because I have to report every contact he tries to make to me, which makes me look like a pest, but YET! he suffers ZERO consequences for his continuing barrage and blatant violations....if someone can figure out WHY for me, please let me know because I do not understand it???
Silly me, I always thought the laws and obeying them were supposed to protect you from idiots like this???? Hey guess what?????????????? WRONG!
So THE HELL WITH IT....let A-Hole email me till his computer blows up, let him threaten me, call me, etc etc...I guess my best defense would be no defense. Let the court date come and go. I am not going to lose a day's pay, stand in a court room and be humiliated in front of a bunch of people, and run the risk of him trying to talk to me or follow me that day. Doing the right thing in this situation has only caused me more stress and has made me look like a complete fool.
Let it be known, if you ever have the unfortunate situation of being harrassed like this, the LAW is NOT GOING TO HELP YOU!
LBPD wont hear from me again...that ought to make them happy...they aren't eager to assist me anyway....
All I wanted was this crazy M-F'er to leave me alone. 1 1/2 months later, it doesnt stop. Will it ever?
**UPDATE***NO WAY I am letting A-Hole get away with this! I'll be there in COURT!
Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Tuesday, March 4, 2008
A Violation??
So I'm driving to work today and my cell phone rings, guess who??? you guessed... A-Hole! Man, he's gotta be one of the stupidist things in God's creation of MAN! Of course he did show some sense and did not leave a voice mail.
So I call LBPD and talk to an officer, all that can be done at this point is it gets filed with the DA's office. Enough of them (violations) and let's hope there isnt more, and A Hole can go to jail.
So this is to let you know, restraining orders DO NOT always mean the restrained will go to jail if he/she makes an attempt to contact you. If they do try and see you face to face, THEN they can go to the pokey, call the PD and make sure you stress that you feel you are in serious danger, and as always, remain as calm as you can possibly be, it sure does help in the long run. NO ONE wants to listen to a cryin' hysterical woman, hard to get taken seriously that way.
Whenever I log onto PlentyOfFish, I know he's checkin' I saw that he's viewed my profile...I bet that drives him NUTS!!!!! as if he isnt nuts enough already.....HAHAHAHA!! I keep it logged on on purpose, just to drive him BATTY!!! Damn freak show!
And I also reported him to Plenty Of Fish as well, hopefully they take his freakin profile off, hate to see any other women get stallked, although that would get his attention off me!! But seriously, they need to ban him from there...what a predator.
Someday....he'll get his payback. Just sit tight.
So I call LBPD and talk to an officer, all that can be done at this point is it gets filed with the DA's office. Enough of them (violations) and let's hope there isnt more, and A Hole can go to jail.
So this is to let you know, restraining orders DO NOT always mean the restrained will go to jail if he/she makes an attempt to contact you. If they do try and see you face to face, THEN they can go to the pokey, call the PD and make sure you stress that you feel you are in serious danger, and as always, remain as calm as you can possibly be, it sure does help in the long run. NO ONE wants to listen to a cryin' hysterical woman, hard to get taken seriously that way.
Whenever I log onto PlentyOfFish, I know he's checkin' I saw that he's viewed my profile...I bet that drives him NUTS!!!!! as if he isnt nuts enough already.....HAHAHAHA!! I keep it logged on on purpose, just to drive him BATTY!!! Damn freak show!
And I also reported him to Plenty Of Fish as well, hopefully they take his freakin profile off, hate to see any other women get stallked, although that would get his attention off me!! But seriously, they need to ban him from there...what a predator.
Someday....he'll get his payback. Just sit tight.
Monday, March 3, 2008
"All's Quiet on the Western Front"...
Well, been a few days and have not heard a peep, no email or nasty phone call or voice mail. Guess the order did the trick? Let's hope so. There is a court date of March 19th, not sure where in Los Banos or Merced, will have to call and find out, but I do not think I need to be present. If he does not show up, then I guess the judge will continue the stay-away order? We'll find out.
I bet it's killin' A-hole daily, hourly that he CAN NOT call with threats and nasty accusations nor send emails all f'ing day long, wonder how he's filling his time? Wonder whom his next "victim" will be?
Let me just say thanks to the few who sent emails with support. And I'd also like to summarize and state my opinions on what I've learned from this little ordeal. Some may be saying, "Stop the interent personals surfin" right? I will continue and continue to be VERY CAREFUL in my selection process of course, but I always WAS, one KOOK just slipped thru my radar. I do have some hints for any other woman tho' if she wishes to meet men for dates or whatever in this manner...
1) NEVER give your phone numbers or address right away, you ask for theirs and call them. You can block your (*67) number till you feel comfortable about them having it. I know this sounds extreme, but like Pat Benetar says "Love is a Battlefield"...
2) Dont be afraid to ask questions, if they think you are prying or seem uncomfortable answering, "F" em, move on.
3) Go to free sites like "WomanSavers" .com check and see if your potential 1st date is there. If he is...well you know what to do, run like HELL!!!
4) If you have enough info and feel the need, go to background check sites like Intelligence (SP?) or Nexus and pay $40/$50 for an online background check....helped me! I found out A Hole was actually 6 years older than he claimed to be! These will show you civil matters that the potential future x husband (HAHA!) may have been involved in and that includes any restraining or civil violations orders as well. If any criminal issues are available, you will get a prompt to PAY MORE $$ and you can find out about those as well. BUT if you see the civil orders, those may be enough to alert you to a problem. Ironically, there were none on my background check done on A-Hole, BUT there will be now!
5) If you find yourself in a situation such as I did, and you need to call law enforcement, save any nasty emails, voice mails or anything that freaked you out in the 1st place to show Mr. Police Officers etc.... DO NOT appear hysterical or a man-hater-basher to Mr. Police Officer that you encounter (I did not and I'm glad!). Even tho' you may have to talk to 2 or 3 before you can finally get one to listen and help you, keep your cool. "Lose it" later after he's gone. DO NOT use the "Women's Place" or any other third party agency to file an order, go to the court house. These guys dropped the ball on me big-time....and BE PERSISTANT, but calmly, law enforecment will sweep you under the rug if you dont stay in their face about it. They will finally get off their asses and do something, just so they can stop hearing from you!
...and please, dont use these tactics if some guy dumped you and you are pissed off about it...this IS ONE OF THE MAJOR reasons why law enforecement does not take this crap seriously, some chicks use it as a away to get back at x-husbands, x BF's, etc...and if you are going to do it, go through with it, dont be sleeping with the guy 2 weeeks later, have some credibility. You owe to the 1000's of women who need these laws put in place to protect their lives and their loved ones as well.
And yes, these days "Love is a Battlefield"...it's too bad things are like that these days, but be smart, be safe and GOOD LUCK!
I bet it's killin' A-hole daily, hourly that he CAN NOT call with threats and nasty accusations nor send emails all f'ing day long, wonder how he's filling his time? Wonder whom his next "victim" will be?
Let me just say thanks to the few who sent emails with support. And I'd also like to summarize and state my opinions on what I've learned from this little ordeal. Some may be saying, "Stop the interent personals surfin" right? I will continue and continue to be VERY CAREFUL in my selection process of course, but I always WAS, one KOOK just slipped thru my radar. I do have some hints for any other woman tho' if she wishes to meet men for dates or whatever in this manner...
1) NEVER give your phone numbers or address right away, you ask for theirs and call them. You can block your (*67) number till you feel comfortable about them having it. I know this sounds extreme, but like Pat Benetar says "Love is a Battlefield"...
2) Dont be afraid to ask questions, if they think you are prying or seem uncomfortable answering, "F" em, move on.
3) Go to free sites like "WomanSavers" .com check and see if your potential 1st date is there. If he is...well you know what to do, run like HELL!!!
4) If you have enough info and feel the need, go to background check sites like Intelligence (SP?) or Nexus and pay $40/$50 for an online background check....helped me! I found out A Hole was actually 6 years older than he claimed to be! These will show you civil matters that the potential future x husband (HAHA!) may have been involved in and that includes any restraining or civil violations orders as well. If any criminal issues are available, you will get a prompt to PAY MORE $$ and you can find out about those as well. BUT if you see the civil orders, those may be enough to alert you to a problem. Ironically, there were none on my background check done on A-Hole, BUT there will be now!
5) If you find yourself in a situation such as I did, and you need to call law enforcement, save any nasty emails, voice mails or anything that freaked you out in the 1st place to show Mr. Police Officers etc.... DO NOT appear hysterical or a man-hater-basher to Mr. Police Officer that you encounter (I did not and I'm glad!). Even tho' you may have to talk to 2 or 3 before you can finally get one to listen and help you, keep your cool. "Lose it" later after he's gone. DO NOT use the "Women's Place" or any other third party agency to file an order, go to the court house. These guys dropped the ball on me big-time....and BE PERSISTANT, but calmly, law enforecment will sweep you under the rug if you dont stay in their face about it. They will finally get off their asses and do something, just so they can stop hearing from you!
...and please, dont use these tactics if some guy dumped you and you are pissed off about it...this IS ONE OF THE MAJOR reasons why law enforecement does not take this crap seriously, some chicks use it as a away to get back at x-husbands, x BF's, etc...and if you are going to do it, go through with it, dont be sleeping with the guy 2 weeeks later, have some credibility. You owe to the 1000's of women who need these laws put in place to protect their lives and their loved ones as well.
And yes, these days "Love is a Battlefield"...it's too bad things are like that these days, but be smart, be safe and GOOD LUCK!
Saturday, March 1, 2008
A Visit to "The Women's Place"
1st off let's talk about the red flags a little more. They were there, yes (jealousy, control freak, wanted me to spend every free minute I had with him) I ignored them for a short time but my better half of my brain said, "c mon Julie" this is headed for a disaster! That is one good thing about age and gettng older, you listen to your common sense more readily.
But as I said, when I made the decision not to see him anymore, it was my right and NOT HIS RIGHT, to harrass and threaten and harang to try and "get back together" with me. What makes a person think they can convince someone to be with them with all that obssesive behavior? I was talking to a co worker about that yesterday and he says some people are just too weak to keep resisting and that's how the stalker/obsseser wins. Sorry A Hole, I am not that weak.
On advise of my lawyer, I go to the 'Women's Place" here in Los Banos after several calls and conversations with the PD in Los Banos and Manteca (where A Hole lives), they are getting sick of hearing from me. There they can help you file a temporary restraining order for free and you can talk to women instead of a disapproving male police officer about what is going on. So I go in and it must have been a red letter day for abused wmen because the place was pretty full, so I feel foolish being there with my problem. It seemed minor compared to some of the women in there that had to bring their small children along with them. So I meet with a counseler and let her hear all the nasty voicemails and then we log onto my email account and she tries to review the 500 plus emails there from A Hole, I just show her the greatest hits so she can get a feel for what I am dealing with. So once again, I get to recant and even in writing the whole nasty story, and the humiliated feeling comes over me again. But the counseler's heard it all here I'm sure, but she does comment that he seems to be very mentally ill, no DUH!!!! So I leave there thinking "OK, 3 or 4 days and he will be served this order and I can have some peace". Not the case, that was Feb. 21st, A Hole finally got served last night, Feb 29th! So 8 days went by, I had to call and call and call, court house PD's in Los Banos and Manteca, sherrif's dept's, where was my order? When was it going to get served? Friday morning the nasty calls from him escalated, I got over a dozen from him between 9am and 11am. Finally yesterday, I get an answer, the Women's Place suddenly closed up, no one knew where the order was, no one knew if it ever got sent to the sherrif's dept. that was supposed to serve it. And my anger towards the Women's Place was not so much for me, well yes...but how about those other women that day, there were some there who were in SERIOUS danger with little kids, so they were just gonna be left to hang out there and dry? And I could imagine if they were having to call the PD for assistance they were getting the same treatment as me, maybe worse because they were involving their kids? My point here being, and not sure if anyone's seeing this yet...9 to 10 days, what could have happepend in those days? A Hole could have done anything to me, to my family. And until I was hurt, dead or maimed, the law would not do a damn thing about it. He clearly threatened me on voice mail a few times and also by email, 2 officers and the counseler at the Woman's Place all heard those threats, yet none of those took it serious enough to move a little faster to help. One day when I called the lady at the Womens' Place to see where the order was at in the system, she told me she didnt finish it one day because "she had a headache" O gee, my sympathies to YOU!!!!!
And not that I am a believer in stay way orders helping in these cases...how many women (and maybe some men too) have been killed by a person they had an order against?? Just recently back East somewhere a woman was killed by an x BF whom she had an order against and called her local PD several times saying she though her life was in danger. I hear that the PD told her if she kept calling, they would put her in jail! Well, I guess that would have saved her life becasue the x BF ended up killing her, just as she thought he would. And then there's the woman in Oakland last year who was killed in her church parking lot by her x husband whom she had an order against as well.
Dont see me as a man-hater-basher, I have heard plenty of stories of women stalking men as well. I talked about this with a friend one night whom has been a victim of stalking as well, he, by a woman he dated briefly. He seems to think that people just can not handle rejection these days, and when they get dumped, it's not so much that they wanted that person, it's that they just arent getting "their way".
So anyway, yesterday I was finally able to find an officer in Los Banos who offered to forward my order to Manteca PD and ask they go out to serve this a-hole ASAP! My prayers worked, he was served at 5pm Friday and I have not heard a peep from him since, but not after mucho stress for 15, 16 days! Thank you Officer O'Day for finally listening.
But as I said, when I made the decision not to see him anymore, it was my right and NOT HIS RIGHT, to harrass and threaten and harang to try and "get back together" with me. What makes a person think they can convince someone to be with them with all that obssesive behavior? I was talking to a co worker about that yesterday and he says some people are just too weak to keep resisting and that's how the stalker/obsseser wins. Sorry A Hole, I am not that weak.
On advise of my lawyer, I go to the 'Women's Place" here in Los Banos after several calls and conversations with the PD in Los Banos and Manteca (where A Hole lives), they are getting sick of hearing from me. There they can help you file a temporary restraining order for free and you can talk to women instead of a disapproving male police officer about what is going on. So I go in and it must have been a red letter day for abused wmen because the place was pretty full, so I feel foolish being there with my problem. It seemed minor compared to some of the women in there that had to bring their small children along with them. So I meet with a counseler and let her hear all the nasty voicemails and then we log onto my email account and she tries to review the 500 plus emails there from A Hole, I just show her the greatest hits so she can get a feel for what I am dealing with. So once again, I get to recant and even in writing the whole nasty story, and the humiliated feeling comes over me again. But the counseler's heard it all here I'm sure, but she does comment that he seems to be very mentally ill, no DUH!!!! So I leave there thinking "OK, 3 or 4 days and he will be served this order and I can have some peace". Not the case, that was Feb. 21st, A Hole finally got served last night, Feb 29th! So 8 days went by, I had to call and call and call, court house PD's in Los Banos and Manteca, sherrif's dept's, where was my order? When was it going to get served? Friday morning the nasty calls from him escalated, I got over a dozen from him between 9am and 11am. Finally yesterday, I get an answer, the Women's Place suddenly closed up, no one knew where the order was, no one knew if it ever got sent to the sherrif's dept. that was supposed to serve it. And my anger towards the Women's Place was not so much for me, well yes...but how about those other women that day, there were some there who were in SERIOUS danger with little kids, so they were just gonna be left to hang out there and dry? And I could imagine if they were having to call the PD for assistance they were getting the same treatment as me, maybe worse because they were involving their kids? My point here being, and not sure if anyone's seeing this yet...9 to 10 days, what could have happepend in those days? A Hole could have done anything to me, to my family. And until I was hurt, dead or maimed, the law would not do a damn thing about it. He clearly threatened me on voice mail a few times and also by email, 2 officers and the counseler at the Woman's Place all heard those threats, yet none of those took it serious enough to move a little faster to help. One day when I called the lady at the Womens' Place to see where the order was at in the system, she told me she didnt finish it one day because "she had a headache" O gee, my sympathies to YOU!!!!!
And not that I am a believer in stay way orders helping in these cases...how many women (and maybe some men too) have been killed by a person they had an order against?? Just recently back East somewhere a woman was killed by an x BF whom she had an order against and called her local PD several times saying she though her life was in danger. I hear that the PD told her if she kept calling, they would put her in jail! Well, I guess that would have saved her life becasue the x BF ended up killing her, just as she thought he would. And then there's the woman in Oakland last year who was killed in her church parking lot by her x husband whom she had an order against as well.
Dont see me as a man-hater-basher, I have heard plenty of stories of women stalking men as well. I talked about this with a friend one night whom has been a victim of stalking as well, he, by a woman he dated briefly. He seems to think that people just can not handle rejection these days, and when they get dumped, it's not so much that they wanted that person, it's that they just arent getting "their way".
So anyway, yesterday I was finally able to find an officer in Los Banos who offered to forward my order to Manteca PD and ask they go out to serve this a-hole ASAP! My prayers worked, he was served at 5pm Friday and I have not heard a peep from him since, but not after mucho stress for 15, 16 days! Thank you Officer O'Day for finally listening.
Friday, February 29, 2008
That Final Straw...
We both loved to ride, motorcycles. One day we rode to Panoche Valley, what a great day that was! The weather was good, roads clear, we had a good dinner and a great night!
Next weeekend, a ride to Hornitos, day was going great, but I guess he could no longer contain what was boiling inside him, the need to take control of the situation, control of me, so BAM! it was Ugly, got back from the road trip, asked him to leave and never come back. He did, after an hour of telling him it was over and done, I could not ride the roller coaster he purchased the tickets for.
So now the barrage begins...emails, voicemails, phone calls, threats. I endured for 3 days, at which point I could take no more. Geez, I HAVE been dumped before without any explanations, I just dealt with it.
So on a Wednesday morning I decide it's time to call the cops. Since Feb 16th, I've had to call the cops in Los Banos and Manteca (where he lives) at least once a day. You may think it is excessive, but when a crazy person is calling and emailing non-stop that they are gonna intercept your kid from the bus stop or they are in front of your house watching your niece come and go or that they will come to your work and cause a scene or they left a voice mail in your employers inbox etc...., you can tend to get a little freaked out.
And all this time, here I am trying to do the right thing, and the law can't or wont do a damn thing to protect me. Cant tell you how many times over the course of the last 2 weeks I envisioned this A-Holes' demise at my hands.
So finally, my boss makes me leave work one day and tells me "go get that restraining order"..because yes, I tell him everything, he sees me upset every day and tears shed in front of him a few times as well...
Next weeekend, a ride to Hornitos, day was going great, but I guess he could no longer contain what was boiling inside him, the need to take control of the situation, control of me, so BAM! it was Ugly, got back from the road trip, asked him to leave and never come back. He did, after an hour of telling him it was over and done, I could not ride the roller coaster he purchased the tickets for.
So now the barrage begins...emails, voicemails, phone calls, threats. I endured for 3 days, at which point I could take no more. Geez, I HAVE been dumped before without any explanations, I just dealt with it.
So on a Wednesday morning I decide it's time to call the cops. Since Feb 16th, I've had to call the cops in Los Banos and Manteca (where he lives) at least once a day. You may think it is excessive, but when a crazy person is calling and emailing non-stop that they are gonna intercept your kid from the bus stop or they are in front of your house watching your niece come and go or that they will come to your work and cause a scene or they left a voice mail in your employers inbox etc...., you can tend to get a little freaked out.
And all this time, here I am trying to do the right thing, and the law can't or wont do a damn thing to protect me. Cant tell you how many times over the course of the last 2 weeks I envisioned this A-Holes' demise at my hands.
So finally, my boss makes me leave work one day and tells me "go get that restraining order"..because yes, I tell him everything, he sees me upset every day and tears shed in front of him a few times as well...
Red Flags...and the mistakes I made by ignoring...
OK, I was jumping ahead of myself there, kinda like a Quentin Tarentino flick!!!
You are asking yourself, what went bad here, why did she need to call the PD? what did he do to her? Well, I'm not going to get into the blow-by-blow juicy details of the story of what went bad. Let's just say, the guy didn not tell me a single truth and after about 3 dates, the fear smellin' dog in me sensed it out. After a week of not returning this guys' calls, for some STUPID reason, I decided to hear him out, his reasons why he "fibbed"...gorgeous bouquets off flowers, the expensive piece of jewlery sent as an apology, a tearful confession...well, I fell for it. At what point do we decide in our lives to STOP being so jaded? STOP being so dis-trusting? Give a guy a little break? Could someone be so enamored of me that he would go to such extremes to impress me? Boy did I get played , and I thought I was smarter than that...BUT all that does not matter, the what, the where and the why and it DOES NOT warrant what followed after, when I finally realized I made a mistake giving this guy chance #2 and told him so! If I had only known it was gonna un-leash some kind of a mental monster the likes I have never came across in my 43 years....OK, tired now, will finsh later.
You are asking yourself, what went bad here, why did she need to call the PD? what did he do to her? Well, I'm not going to get into the blow-by-blow juicy details of the story of what went bad. Let's just say, the guy didn not tell me a single truth and after about 3 dates, the fear smellin' dog in me sensed it out. After a week of not returning this guys' calls, for some STUPID reason, I decided to hear him out, his reasons why he "fibbed"...gorgeous bouquets off flowers, the expensive piece of jewlery sent as an apology, a tearful confession...well, I fell for it. At what point do we decide in our lives to STOP being so jaded? STOP being so dis-trusting? Give a guy a little break? Could someone be so enamored of me that he would go to such extremes to impress me? Boy did I get played , and I thought I was smarter than that...BUT all that does not matter, the what, the where and the why and it DOES NOT warrant what followed after, when I finally realized I made a mistake giving this guy chance #2 and told him so! If I had only known it was gonna un-leash some kind of a mental monster the likes I have never came across in my 43 years....OK, tired now, will finsh later.
Reaching out to "the law"...
OK, 1st of all, what a joke that is!!!! HAHAHAAA!!!
Call PD, officer shows up at your house...you tell him your reason for calling...he looks at you like you are the stupidist woman in the world, especially when you tell him how you met this guy. So you must explain why you feel scared, threatened...then you let him hear the voice mails (19 at this point as I had to save "the greatest hits" to save space in my voice mailbox) left by the person whom you are being threatened by...humilitating. As the officer listens, he looks at you like you are somehow deserving of this treatment. You kinda understand his point...is he going to see you with this guy a week later, holding hands, kissing, making googly eyes at each other? Happens all the time, police officers see it all the time as well. How many domestic calls do they go out on and the alleged victim who made the call turns on the responding officer?? Just watch "Cops", you see it all the time! So now I have to explain to the officer as well, that I am not this calibur of a person, I am NOT fodder for the TV show "Cops".
Mr Police Officer leaves my house with the promise to call my soon to be stalker and tell him to quit calling and emailing me. Visiting officer of course, advises me "get a restraining order" (of course, why did I not thnk of that, DUH!). Sure Officer, I'll take a whole day off work, miss a whole day's pay, recant my whole embarrasing story to someone else so that when my stalker comes to kill me, I can hold that paper up in front of him and somehow, it will magically stop a bullet, his hands around my throat or a knife against my neck...O, and while he's on top of me trying to kill me, I'll be sure and call you, K????
OK, so hours go by, I was hoping maybe I'd get a call from the officer that was out to my house saying he called, or at least tried (I know at this point "stalker man's" not gonna answer his phone), nothing heard, so I call PD to try and get some info, once again I get the sighs and exasperated tone reserved for a pain in the ass that I'm sure "water cooler talk' at the PD has already circulated around about me that morning.
Call PD, officer shows up at your house...you tell him your reason for calling...he looks at you like you are the stupidist woman in the world, especially when you tell him how you met this guy. So you must explain why you feel scared, threatened...then you let him hear the voice mails (19 at this point as I had to save "the greatest hits" to save space in my voice mailbox) left by the person whom you are being threatened by...humilitating. As the officer listens, he looks at you like you are somehow deserving of this treatment. You kinda understand his point...is he going to see you with this guy a week later, holding hands, kissing, making googly eyes at each other? Happens all the time, police officers see it all the time as well. How many domestic calls do they go out on and the alleged victim who made the call turns on the responding officer?? Just watch "Cops", you see it all the time! So now I have to explain to the officer as well, that I am not this calibur of a person, I am NOT fodder for the TV show "Cops".
Mr Police Officer leaves my house with the promise to call my soon to be stalker and tell him to quit calling and emailing me. Visiting officer of course, advises me "get a restraining order" (of course, why did I not thnk of that, DUH!). Sure Officer, I'll take a whole day off work, miss a whole day's pay, recant my whole embarrasing story to someone else so that when my stalker comes to kill me, I can hold that paper up in front of him and somehow, it will magically stop a bullet, his hands around my throat or a knife against my neck...O, and while he's on top of me trying to kill me, I'll be sure and call you, K????
OK, so hours go by, I was hoping maybe I'd get a call from the officer that was out to my house saying he called, or at least tried (I know at this point "stalker man's" not gonna answer his phone), nothing heard, so I call PD to try and get some info, once again I get the sighs and exasperated tone reserved for a pain in the ass that I'm sure "water cooler talk' at the PD has already circulated around about me that morning.
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