A Visit to "The Women's Place"

1st off let's talk about the red flags a little more. They were there, yes (jealousy, control freak, wanted me to spend every free minute I had with him) I ignored them for a short time but my better half of my brain said, "c mon Julie" this is headed for a disaster! That is one good thing about age and gettng older, you listen to your common sense more readily.
But as I said, when I made the decision not to see him anymore, it was my right and NOT HIS RIGHT, to harrass and threaten and harang to try and "get back together" with me. What makes a person think they can convince someone to be with them with all that obssesive behavior? I was talking to a co worker about that yesterday and he says some people are just too weak to keep resisting and that's how the stalker/obsseser wins. Sorry A Hole, I am not that weak.
On advise of my lawyer, I go to the 'Women's Place" here in Los Banos after several calls and conversations with the PD in Los Banos and Manteca (where A Hole lives), they are getting sick of hearing from me. There they can help you file a temporary restraining order for free and you can talk to women instead of a disapproving male police officer about what is going on. So I go in and it must have been a red letter day for abused wmen because the place was pretty full, so I feel foolish being there with my problem. It seemed minor compared to some of the women in there that had to bring their small children along with them. So I meet with a counseler and let her hear all the nasty voicemails and then we log onto my email account and she tries to review the 500 plus emails there from A Hole, I just show her the greatest hits so she can get a feel for what I am dealing with. So once again, I get to recant and even in writing the whole nasty story, and the humiliated feeling comes over me again. But the counseler's heard it all here I'm sure, but she does comment that he seems to be very mentally ill, no DUH!!!! So I leave there thinking "OK, 3 or 4 days and he will be served this order and I can have some peace". Not the case, that was Feb. 21st, A Hole finally got served last night, Feb 29th! So 8 days went by, I had to call and call and call, court house PD's in Los Banos and Manteca, sherrif's dept's, where was my order? When was it going to get served? Friday morning the nasty calls from him escalated, I got over a dozen from him between 9am and 11am. Finally yesterday, I get an answer, the Women's Place suddenly closed up, no one knew where the order was, no one knew if it ever got sent to the sherrif's dept. that was supposed to serve it. And my anger towards the Women's Place was not so much for me, well yes...but how about those other women that day, there were some there who were in SERIOUS danger with little kids, so they were just gonna be left to hang out there and dry? And I could imagine if they were having to call the PD for assistance they were getting the same treatment as me, maybe worse because they were involving their kids? My point here being, and not sure if anyone's seeing this yet...9 to 10 days, what could have happepend in those days? A Hole could have done anything to me, to my family. And until I was hurt, dead or maimed, the law would not do a damn thing about it. He clearly threatened me on voice mail a few times and also by email, 2 officers and the counseler at the Woman's Place all heard those threats, yet none of those took it serious enough to move a little faster to help. One day when I called the lady at the Womens' Place to see where the order was at in the system, she told me she didnt finish it one day because "she had a headache" O gee, my sympathies to YOU!!!!!
And not that I am a believer in stay way orders helping in these cases...how many women (and maybe some men too) have been killed by a person they had an order against?? Just recently back East somewhere a woman was killed by an x BF whom she had an order against and called her local PD several times saying she though her life was in danger. I hear that the PD told her if she kept calling, they would put her in jail! Well, I guess that would have saved her life becasue the x BF ended up killing her, just as she thought he would. And then there's the woman in Oakland last year who was killed in her church parking lot by her x husband whom she had an order against as well.
Dont see me as a man-hater-basher, I have heard plenty of stories of women stalking men as well. I talked about this with a friend one night whom has been a victim of stalking as well, he, by a woman he dated briefly. He seems to think that people just can not handle rejection these days, and when they get dumped, it's not so much that they wanted that person, it's that they just arent getting "their way".
So anyway, yesterday I was finally able to find an officer in Los Banos who offered to forward my order to Manteca PD and ask they go out to serve this a-hole ASAP! My prayers worked, he was served at 5pm Friday and I have not heard a peep from him since, but not after mucho stress for 15, 16 days! Thank you Officer O'Day for finally listening.